In January 2020, Gomez opened up about “the concept of having a normal human relationship” as a celebrity. “If I can be honest, it is just so cliché. Everyone dates everyone,” she explained during an interview with Apple Music’s Beats 1. “It always seems to be within a little bubble and it’s because it’s safe, right? You know, you’re wanting someone to understand what you’re going through. You’re almost wanting a counterpart of creativity as well and it’s, you know, interesting and fun.”
The “Back to You” songstress continued: “But the problem with that is that you end up — whether you admit it or not — you’re having your relationship for people and not even for yourself. There’s almost this point where it’s like, ‘Oh, we’re making it known that we’re together’ or whatever, whatever it is. It’s like, you just need to decide within our world if it’s for you or is it for show.”
After a series of ups and downs with Bieber and other boyfriends, Gomez embraced time alone, telling The Wall Street Journal that same month that she had “been single for over two years.”
However, the Disney Channel alum had a clear idea of how she would behave in her next relationship. “I’m the kind of girl that loves tremendously big. I just have always been that girl,” she told Miami’s Power 96.5 FM in May 2017. “I will give my heart and my soul to the person that I love. It’s just how I operate.”
Gomez also found solace from heartbreak in her music. “She loved being able to tell her truth through her own art and her own way,” a source exclusively revealed to Us Weekly in February 2020. “It took a lot of discipline, obedience and strength to get her mental and emotional health back in a good place.”
The insider added at the time that the singer was working and not “actively looking or going out of her way to be in a relationship” with someone: “She is still healing but now knows what kind of guy she would want to date and what qualities he would need to have in order for her and her future boyfriend to be in a healthy, thriving, loving and supportive relationship.”
In fact, Gomez herself shared in December 2019 that she wants a partner who is funny and not arrogant. “I love playful, adventurous, but really down-to-earth and cool,” she told the U.K.’s Capital FM.
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The Disney Channel stars dated in 2008. “We were babies,” she told Capital FM in September 2015. “That, to me, was like puppy love, you know. It was very sweet.” Gomez — who played his love interest in the music video for the Jonas Brothers’ “Burnin’ Up” — and best friend Taylor Swift bonded while they were dating the “Jealous” crooner and his brother Joe Jonas, respectively.
Gomez had a brief romance with the Twilight star in 2009 — before he dated Swift. “Kristen [Stewart] was staying in my hotel,” she explained to Seventeen in 2009. “He would visit her, so we were constantly running into each other in the lobby — and we ended up meeting. We would go out to lunch and dinner, but I knew he had paparazzi following him and I had paparazzi following me. So we literally just wanted to hang out, go bowling and stuff, and it went a little too far, I think. People were getting a little crazy about us.”
After repeatedly claiming they were more like siblings than lovebirds, Gomez and Bieber confirmed their romance in February 2011. They split in November 2012 before reconnecting in April 2013. The couple dated on and off for the next several years and even dated other people during breaks in their relationship. The musicians reconciled in November 2017 but called it quits for good in March 2018. The “Sorry” singer ultimately married wife Hailey Baldwin in September 2018.
Gomez made headlines in January 2020 when she accused Bieber of “emotional abuse” in their relationship. Her 2020 album, Rare, featured several songs alluding to their breakup, including “Lose You to Love Me.
The actor and the Wizards of Waverly Place alum were spotted spending time together in Los Angeles in April 2014. The duo were then seen getting cozy in Las Vegas in May 2016. Days later, Bloom’s girlfriend, Katy Perry, called the relationship rumors surrounding the pair a “dumb conspiracy” in a Twitter post, which Gomez retweeted.
The “I Want You to Know” collaborators dated in early 2015. “I adore Zedd a lot and I definitely had a thing with him, which was nice,” Gomez admitted on New Zealand’s The Edge Afternoons in June 2015.
The DJ reflected on the high-profile situation in August 2017. “Reporters were calling my parents. People were hacking my friends’ phones. I was pissed, [though] I kind of knew what I was getting myself into,” he told Billboard. “She is one of the most talked-about people in the world, but I had no idea how much that would change my life.”
The Monte Carlo star and the former One Direction member were spotted on multiple dates in December 2015 and were reportedly kissing at Jenna Dewan’s 35th birthday party. The twosome were linked again in late 2019, but Horan claimed in December of that year that he was “very much single.”
Gomez briefly dated Gigi Hadid’s friend from late 2015 to early 2016. “Selena is a real girl with a real heart and real feelings,” the Fyre Festival booker wrote via Instagram in August 2016. “All you superficial who are just unhappy with your love lives, understand that love is real. Although we have ventured on separate paths, at least I know that love exists. I love you, Sel.” The NYU graduate later deleted his comments.
Us reported in March 2016 that Gomez and Puth, duet partners on “We Don’t Talk Anymore,” were hooking up. “It’s not serious, but she’s super into him,” a source told Us at the time.
The “Attention” singer told Billboard in February 2018 that the relationship was “very short-lived, very small, but very impactful.” He elaborated: “It really messed me up. I’m trying to put this the best way possible: It wasn’t like I was the only person on her mind. And I think I knew that going in — what I was getting myself into.”
Gomez and the Grammy winner dated from January to October 2017. An insider told Us in March 2020 that the exes are “cordial” after she shared his music on her Instagram account. According to the source, “She has no negative feelings toward him.”